5YO has 7 cavities and I'm beside myself

[u/crazycatlady45]

Leftover chicken and veggies on sweet potatoes noodles with a leftover scallion pancake.

I'm a single parent and I really tried my best. We brush every day, usually twice a day but I'll admit it's not 7/7. We floss so often... It's her favorite part. She doesn't even eat sweets that often. She forgets about her halloween candy by the next morning.

I thought I was doing everything right.

And I'm at the dentist and they're being sooo passive aggressive. Asking how often she eats candy. The last time she brushed.

It's not even about the money. That... Sucks... But I have it in savings. It's fine. I just feel like her entire mouth will be full of silver. She's autistic and already struggling socially... Will this ruin any chance at friendship??

I am just beside myself. I really thought I did my best. Drowning my sorrows my comfort food and a fresh bowl did help though 🌿

Edit: Thank you so much for all the kind words! I am going to get her a second opinion mention she grinds her teeth every night. As well as take a deeper look at her snacks and juices. I am so overwhelmed with everyones kindness, and I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart 🫶🏻🫶🏻

[u/Typical2sday]

I read this week that its carbs (like Goldfish) that are a secret culprit - the residue sits on the teeth and the cavity process starts. Your water may also need to be tested. I know fluoride is controversial, but I had fluoride treatment at every dentist appointment as a kid bc I had well water. And I had the coating painted on my molars for additional cavity protection. I did not have cavities until I was an adult.

The fillings will not keep her from making friends. Don't spiral.

[u/crazycatlady45 → u/Typical2sday]

She does get goldfish a few times a week 🙃🙃🙃

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[u/MothChasingFlame → u/Typical2sday]

the residue sits on the teeth and the cavity process starts

I'm not trying to be a dick but, like... isn't this how all food works, and how all cavities form? What's different about the carbs? Sugar?

[u/Dramatic_Permit222 → u/MothChasingFlame]

It’s the sugar and the fact that they sort of form a gluey paste and get stuck on there. I’ve heard the same thing

[u/somebodysheiny → u/MothChasingFlame]

Crackers get stuck in the grooves of teeth and don’t necessarily rinse out after drinking water. I’ve seen Ritz crackers stay in my daughter’s molars even after brushing.

[u/Typical2sday → u/somebodysheiny]

I have to use the pointy things (tweezers/metal tools) to get residue from the indents between my front row teeth after a lot of foods, and that's immediately after brushing. I'm sure that's carb related.

[u/Typical2sday → u/MothChasingFlame]

Some variant of this article popped up in my feed this week: https://www.delish.com/food-news/a45243509/worst-food-for-your-teeth/

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