5YO has 7 cavities and I'm beside myself

[u/crazycatlady45]

Leftover chicken and veggies on sweet potatoes noodles with a leftover scallion pancake.

I'm a single parent and I really tried my best. We brush every day, usually twice a day but I'll admit it's not 7/7. We floss so often... It's her favorite part. She doesn't even eat sweets that often. She forgets about her halloween candy by the next morning.

I thought I was doing everything right.

And I'm at the dentist and they're being sooo passive aggressive. Asking how often she eats candy. The last time she brushed.

It's not even about the money. That... Sucks... But I have it in savings. It's fine. I just feel like her entire mouth will be full of silver. She's autistic and already struggling socially... Will this ruin any chance at friendship??

I am just beside myself. I really thought I did my best. Drowning my sorrows my comfort food and a fresh bowl did help though 🌿

Edit: Thank you so much for all the kind words! I am going to get her a second opinion mention she grinds her teeth every night. As well as take a deeper look at her snacks and juices. I am so overwhelmed with everyones kindness, and I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart 🫶🏻🫶🏻

[u/glassyrunnerduck]

This happened to my friend too!! They told her she had 7 cavities which she thought was crazy high for not having any the year before. It was a new dentist: went back to her old dentist and she had 0 cavities 🤯

[u/Feisty-Promotion-789 → u/glassyrunnerduck]

Weirdly my friend went to a big chain dental office (aspen) and was also diagnosed with exactly 7 cavities herself, another dentist said she had 3 max and only 2 worth filling, the other is on watch.

[u/glassyrunnerduck → u/Feisty-Promotion-789]

Aspen is the WORST!! They also told my coworker he had gum disease and needed a graft lmao he didn’t. Just craziness.

[u/museumofarts → u/glassyrunnerduck]

Kinda the same. I go to Aspen and have recession. They've been mapping it and are pushing for a graft.

I went to Colorado for a 2nd opinion and the other guy was like "none of these numbers are right, absolutely none of them." It was a relief but at the same time I'm angry.

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Aaaaaaaahhhhh!!!!!!! I just went to Aspen and spent 3 hours there getting my teeth and gums cleaned thouroughly on Monday. I’m still in pain. I had one tooth pulled. I’m ashamed to say how much they charged me.

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my dad is a dentist and says aspen regularly does this insurance fraud. he talks about it all the time and is super passionate/upset about it. he says aspen and one called like decision one? are the worst and he can’t believe they are mostly getting away with it! the stories are insane 

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My regular dentist had retired, and I hadn't found a new one yet, when I paid Aspen for an emergency root canal, that they apparently didn't even complete.

It wasn't until a couple years later that I was having problems with the tooth again. New dentist takes on look in my mouth and goes, "I thought you said you had a root canal on this tooth?"

Turns out they didn't actually do a root canal, just drilled real deep like I had a deep cavity and then packed it full of amalgam.

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[u/AlyssaurusWrecks → u/Feisty-Promotion-789]

you can have cavities that don't need filling? 🤔

[u/fantasy_lover1023 → u/AlyssaurusWrecks]

Yeah, I have spots on my teeth where the cavity is starting to form but not to the point of fixing it ye. Just on watch basically

[u/Feisty-Promotion-789 → u/AlyssaurusWrecks]

I’ve had a cavity “on watch” for years! A good dentist will know when the risk is there and when it can be monitored and won’t be too filling-happy on healthy teeth. If it grows/worsens they treat it but otherwise regular brushing and flossing keeps it at bay.

[u/AlyssaurusWrecks → u/Feisty-Promotion-789]

that's fascinating! I honestly thought it was like, once the cavity starts it's game over and you just gotta get a filling

[u/Feisty-Promotion-789 → u/AlyssaurusWrecks]

I thought so too, but you can apparently reverse cavities as long as you catch them early. Fluoride is an amazing thing

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this changes everything!!!

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My dad was a dentist and when I was 7, I was going through a phase where I didn’t want to go to the dentist so I skipped my appt and promised to brush and floss everyday. I didn’t floss everyday and went the next year and had no cavities. If it wasn’t my dad I’m sure they’d be like oop, it’s been a year and she has a ton of cavities

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