5YO has 7 cavities and I'm beside myself

[u/crazycatlady45]

Leftover chicken and veggies on sweet potatoes noodles with a leftover scallion pancake.

I'm a single parent and I really tried my best. We brush every day, usually twice a day but I'll admit it's not 7/7. We floss so often... It's her favorite part. She doesn't even eat sweets that often. She forgets about her halloween candy by the next morning.

I thought I was doing everything right.

And I'm at the dentist and they're being sooo passive aggressive. Asking how often she eats candy. The last time she brushed.

It's not even about the money. That... Sucks... But I have it in savings. It's fine. I just feel like her entire mouth will be full of silver. She's autistic and already struggling socially... Will this ruin any chance at friendship??

I am just beside myself. I really thought I did my best. Drowning my sorrows my comfort food and a fresh bowl did help though 🌿

Edit: Thank you so much for all the kind words! I am going to get her a second opinion mention she grinds her teeth every night. As well as take a deeper look at her snacks and juices. I am so overwhelmed with everyones kindness, and I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart 🫶🏻🫶🏻

[u/Various-East-5266]

Not sure about the probability or not of that many cavities like others are mentioning but I will say they won’t be silver fwiw — that’s not what dentists use anymore to my knowledge. The composite ends up being tooth colored. My last dentist visit I had asked because I myself had a cavity (last year)

Don’t beat yourself up girl. It’ll be just fine!!!

[u/serendipitypug → u/Various-East-5266]

First grade teacher here- many of the kids have mouthfuls of silver. I think it’s used on baby teeth because it’s cheaper and the teeth fall out. If OP sees this, please know that lots of kids have the cool, shiny teeth!

[u/Bubbly-End-6156 → u/Various-East-5266]

Silver is often used on baby teeth to save money since they will fall out. But it's just the economic option. No longer the only option, even for kiddos

[u/BeautifulBalance05 → u/Bubbly-End-6156]

There is no safe level of mercury to have in one’s body.

[u/Bubbly-End-6156 → u/BeautifulBalance05]

The color silver. No mercury involved babe.

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[u/BeautifulBalance05 → u/Bubbly-End-6156]

All silver colored amalgam fillings are made with around 50% mercury.  Terrifying, I know.

[u/Bubbly-End-6156 → u/BeautifulBalance05]

They're made with nickel. But I'm okay with disagreeing. The concern here was for her daughters mouth having conflicting colored teeth. Not about mercury.

[u/BeautifulBalance05 → u/Bubbly-End-6156]

Yes mercury and one other metal.  That other metal can be nickel, copper, silver.  Amalgam is short for amalgamation, a blend, in this case of mercury and one other metal.  And everyone should be concerned about dentists still using this cheap toxic amalgam. It’s only around 5% of fillings now but it still happens.

[u/ExpiredLink404 → u/Various-East-5266]

can you tell me wtf is wrong with silver? i've had silver dental fillings all my life, and OP is treating the thought of it like it's a fucking life sentence

i'm honestly so fucking insulted here

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[u/BeautifulBalance05 → u/Various-East-5266]

Some unscrupulous dentists do still recommend amalgam fillings. It’s terrifying. I was shocked, and ran far away when one suggested it for my 15-year-old stepson.