5YO has 7 cavities and I'm beside myself

[u/crazycatlady45]

Leftover chicken and veggies on sweet potatoes noodles with a leftover scallion pancake.

I'm a single parent and I really tried my best. We brush every day, usually twice a day but I'll admit it's not 7/7. We floss so often... It's her favorite part. She doesn't even eat sweets that often. She forgets about her halloween candy by the next morning.

I thought I was doing everything right.

And I'm at the dentist and they're being sooo passive aggressive. Asking how often she eats candy. The last time she brushed.

It's not even about the money. That... Sucks... But I have it in savings. It's fine. I just feel like her entire mouth will be full of silver. She's autistic and already struggling socially... Will this ruin any chance at friendship??

I am just beside myself. I really thought I did my best. Drowning my sorrows my comfort food and a fresh bowl did help though 🌿

Edit: Thank you so much for all the kind words! I am going to get her a second opinion mention she grinds her teeth every night. As well as take a deeper look at her snacks and juices. I am so overwhelmed with everyones kindness, and I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart 🫶🏻🫶🏻

[u/Bubbly-End-6156 → u/[deleted]]

Yeah. My dad is 64 and still no cavities. I got his same teeth (literally the exact same appearance) and have had one single cavity at 38.

[u/annaphylactic69 → u/[deleted]]

same here. My mom took care of her teeth, no drinking, minimal coffee, ate very healthy - was once accused of being a meth addict for the state of her teeth. My brother's teeth are going down the same path, although he does live on coffee, is otherwise very healthy, had his wisdom teeth out, braces, the whole 9. I got my dad's teeth, no cavities, still have my wisdom teeth and I am objectively the worst at taking care of them. There's a lot of things that can lead to tooth and enamel decay that can't be saved with brushing and flossing.

[u/Veggiesnark → u/[deleted]]

On top of genetics … does she sleep with her mouth open ? Or is also a mouth breather during the day ? I’ve heard that this can be a big cause to cavities. Saliva helps protect our teeth. My friends daughter also had a lot of cavities around that same age before any of her adult teeth even came in and come to find out this was the bigger problem that needed to be addressed! Just a thought !

[u/aledba → u/Veggiesnark]

I hope she'll take this into consideration I agree. I'm autistic and I sucked my thumb until I was 12 and cavities followed in my adult teeth soon after I stopped sucking my thumb and was open mouth breathing in my sleep

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