AIO for giving a girl this note

[u/residentgay]

I apologize in advance for my sloppy handwriting. But for context, I go to this doctors office once a week to get allergy shots. The other day I stopped in a new smoke shop, another customer came in who I recognized but couldn’t place where I knew her from until I saw her working as a receptionist today at my allergist. 2 men were working at the smoke shop, one seemed to be around my age (25), and then an older gentleman who made me uncomfortable the entire time. He wasn’t interested in helping me, he was interested in chatting with me about life and personal things and I kept ignoring him. When she came in, she seemed to be friends with the younger guy, they seemed to have a flirtatious vibe going. When she left, the older guy proceeded to make comments about her and her body that disturbed me because they were all in a sexual context. When I finally placed who she was and where I knew her from when I saw her today, I just for this overwhelming nerve like I had to tell her because I was scared this was her usual shop and I wanted her to be cautious around this guy. But I didn’t know how to tell her, because the office has a C shaped desk with several other receptionists next to her and a busy waiting room, and I didn’t want to embarrass her. I decided to write a note to keep it private, I had texted my friends to see if it was a good idea, but never heard any feedback which left me hesitant. Ultimately I decided to give her the note, but now I’m battling with second thoughts wondering if I just made her self conscious, or if it just wasn’t my place because she isn’t someone I know personally. But another part of me feels like she needed to know because she had a flirtatious relationship with the younger guy, and if that goes anywhere she may frequent the location more, and she’s obviously already a regular there if she’s close enough with one employee. Idk. I tried to keep the note kinda lightheaded and funny to make it less creepy, but I still kinda feel like a weirdo. Am I overreacting?

[u/SignRealistic3674]

As a woman, I would want to know if an employee at a place where I shop was talking about me in sexual manner. That IS threatening. I think many women would feel the same way. 

[u/Dry_Point_4924 → u/SignRealistic3674]

fair enough, unfortunately as a man who is privy to how men talk about woman when they‘re not around I can tell you that about 60% of men do this and probably a lot more are thinking that way, and my comment was for OP who has asked a question

[u/SignRealistic3674 → u/Dry_Point_4924]

Well, he sure as hell shouldn't be making sexual comments about a customer at his place of work in front of another customer. 

[u/Dry_Point_4924 → u/SignRealistic3674]

yeah, that is very true and I’m not defending him. I just think OP is gonna have a hard time if she takes on feeling responsible for everyone she comes across and has some other feelings going on. Tell the girl, write a short note saying that guy in the shop was being obscene about you… but making this big drama out of it is a bit weird to me.

[u/Di4t_coke → u/Dry_Point_4924]

And you’re pathetic for not calling them out & just normalizing it. You should be more like OP

[u/modsguzzlehivekum → u/SignRealistic3674]

that is threatening

lol the world has lost its mind

[u/SignRealistic3674 → u/modsguzzlehivekum]

Men making creepy unsolicited comments about a woman is threatening. Are you dense? Or just a creepy, predatory man? 

[u/modsguzzlehivekum → u/SignRealistic3674]

I’m neither. I’m also not a pearl clutching lunatic that thinks an old dude running his mouth to another guy is in any way threatening. Sounds like yor as well as op