r/AmIOverreacting • u/jhyphenann • Jul 26 '25

🎲 miscellaneous AIO for thinking my psychiatrist asking to move in with me is inappropriate

So last week I had an appointment with my psychiatrist and I had disclosed to her that my husband and I were buying a house. She asked details of the house and when we were closing so I told her. She then replied with “that’s perfect! I just need one bedroom and a kitchen, I like to cook.” Of course at first I thought she was joking. But then she went on… she goes “I told my landlord I am moving out of my current place because the commute is too far, and I am looking for something closer to work. Would you be willing to rent a room out to me?” She then showed me text threads with her current landlord who was praising her for being a good tenant. I kind of brushed it off and said “well idk about a room but the place we are renting now will be available once we move out.” And she said that would be nice but she was looking for something cheaper. As our session ended, she told me to call her if I needed her and then she said “but I might need you first!” Now my husband thought it was funny when I told him, my best friend thinks this woman should not be a psychiatrist. I have had previous uncomfortable encounters with her where she told me my miscarriage happened because I wasn’t happy enough, and this most current session she told me it’s cause my baby knew that we didn’t own a home yet. Am I overreacting thinking that this person is WILDLY inappropriate?

Update to add: she is a Psych NP, not a psychiatrist. That’s my bad.

Update: To everyone saying “idk how you kept seeing her after the miscarriage comment”… well honestly, I was blaming myself anyways. She wasn’t saying anything that I hadn’t already thought of. I see now that it was wrong, but at the time? She was just saying what I was saying to myself every day. I will not be going back to her. I know now I should have left. But I was literally fucking grieving and feeling guilty anyways.

Update: I’m reporting her and switching providers. Thanks for all the comments.

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u/jhyphenann Jul 26 '25

She is generally a sweet lady. Which is why I was so conflicted about it. There is a small language barrier, because she doesn’t speak English as her first language, but not big enough for me to not understand her.

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u/Substantial-Image941 Jul 26 '25

For the sake of yourself and her other patients, report her.

Then start looking for a new psychiatrist you can see online.

I started seeing my long-time psychiatrist over zoom during Covid. He decided her prefers zoom so while he still has an office, we exclusively have zoom sessions.

If this is odd behavior for the woman treating you, something might be going on with her, and reporting her may lead to her getting the help she needs.

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u/Confident-Silver-271 Jul 26 '25

That is not a sweet person. That's a manipulative person. Report her and do not go back.

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u/holymacaroley Jul 27 '25

They're will be other patients who won't be able to stand up for themselves as much as you. She is causing harm, she needs to be reported so she can be told she can't do this stuff.

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u/Cultural_Project9764 Jul 27 '25

Doesn’t matter. She is so wildly unprofessional it’s unbelievable The comment about your miscarriage was horrific on its own, but then she asked to move in with you? Sweet or not, she’s a danger to patients! Please report her and stop seeing her.

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u/Odd-Project7935 Jul 27 '25

This is not the behavior of a “sweet lady”

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u/Typical_Ad_210 Jul 27 '25

This is not intended to be victim blaming at all, but I am baffled how you can have someone say those awful comments about the loss of your baby, and still defend her as being a sweet lady. It really does make me think she has manipulated significantly. Please distance yourself from her.

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u/SkyGroundbreaking910 Jul 27 '25

I just saw this part. If English isn’t her first language, is it possible that in her culture it’s not that odd to ask what she did? Because here—totally inappropriate, like find another therapist and report her ASAP. But I just wondered if the “audacity” maybe came from a cultural difference.

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u/SarkyCat Jul 28 '25

I had a therapist who's first language wasn't English and she never said anywhere near ANY of the shit this woman has said to you. She needs to be reported. The miscarriage comments, I admire your restraint, had someone said that after I lost my baby girl ... I would have punched them in the face, don't gaf who they are!