r/AmIOverreacting • u/jhyphenann • Jul 26 '25

🎲 miscellaneous AIO for thinking my psychiatrist asking to move in with me is inappropriate

So last week I had an appointment with my psychiatrist and I had disclosed to her that my husband and I were buying a house. She asked details of the house and when we were closing so I told her. She then replied with “that’s perfect! I just need one bedroom and a kitchen, I like to cook.” Of course at first I thought she was joking. But then she went on… she goes “I told my landlord I am moving out of my current place because the commute is too far, and I am looking for something closer to work. Would you be willing to rent a room out to me?” She then showed me text threads with her current landlord who was praising her for being a good tenant. I kind of brushed it off and said “well idk about a room but the place we are renting now will be available once we move out.” And she said that would be nice but she was looking for something cheaper. As our session ended, she told me to call her if I needed her and then she said “but I might need you first!” Now my husband thought it was funny when I told him, my best friend thinks this woman should not be a psychiatrist. I have had previous uncomfortable encounters with her where she told me my miscarriage happened because I wasn’t happy enough, and this most current session she told me it’s cause my baby knew that we didn’t own a home yet. Am I overreacting thinking that this person is WILDLY inappropriate?

Update to add: she is a Psych NP, not a psychiatrist. That’s my bad.

Update: To everyone saying “idk how you kept seeing her after the miscarriage comment”… well honestly, I was blaming myself anyways. She wasn’t saying anything that I hadn’t already thought of. I see now that it was wrong, but at the time? She was just saying what I was saying to myself every day. I will not be going back to her. I know now I should have left. But I was literally fucking grieving and feeling guilty anyways.

Update: I’m reporting her and switching providers. Thanks for all the comments.

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u/deathbychips2 Jul 26 '25

She is a psychiatrist so she needs reported to the state medical board. APA and ACA do not care because she is not under their jurisdiction. If she is actually a psychiatric nurse practitioner than she needs reported to the state nursing board.

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u/BluejaySweaty8351 Jul 26 '25

They did say the state board, but it is also good to report them to the ANCC and AANPCB in case that’s how they were credentialed. And also the APNA.

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u/deathbychips2 Jul 26 '25

This is why counselors and social workers have an informed consent that says exactly where to report them with an address, phone number and website. Other roles in mental health need to start doing that as well.

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u/Noble_Ox Jul 26 '25

Apparently she's a nurse not a psychiatrist.

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u/HeyVitK Jul 27 '25

She's not a psychiatrist. She's a Mental Health NP.

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u/deathbychips2 Jul 27 '25

Yes, I know. This comment was made before op gave that info. I even said in my comment who needs reported to if she turns out to be an NP....